When pride lives in our hearts, we’re far more concerned with others’ perceptions of us than the reality of our hearts. We fight the sins that have an impact on how others view us, and make peace with the ones that no one sees. We have great success in the areas of holiness that have highly visible accountability, but little concern for the disciplines that happen in secret.


An immediate defensive posture when you are challenged, confronted, or advised of hurting someone is a sure sign of pride. . If someone is criticized, they lash out and deny any wrong-doing. They may even turn the tables on the critic and criticize them. They say things like “Well if you didn’t do this, I wouldn’t have done that”.

True humility is not knocked off balance and thrown into a defensive posture by challenge or rebuke, but instead continues in doing good, entrusting the soul to our faithful Creator. I love this quote from Johnathan Edwards, “For the humble Christian, the more the world is against him, the more silent and still he will be, unless it is in his prayer closet, and there he will not be still.”

Desperation for Attention

Pride is hungry for attention and worship in all its forms. Maybe it’s being unable to say “no” to anyone because we need to be needed. Maybe it looks like obsessively thirsting for or fantasizing about a better marriage because you’re hungry to be adored. Maybe it looks like being haunted by your desire for the right car or the right house, the right kitchen, or the right title at work: all because you seek the glory that comes from men, not God.